Black Marriage Monday: Michael & Chanel Nelson

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Hometown

Michael: Camden, South Carolina

Chanel: Atlanta, Georgia

Occupation

Michael: Art Director

Chanel: Human Resources

Interests / Hobbies

Michael: Fitness. I have an interest in working out and overall health & wellness.

Chanel: Talent Development. I have an interest seeing others reach their highest potential professionally.

How did you two meet each other?

We were both completing internships with the Atlanta Hawks, Atlanta Thrashers (back when we had a hockey team) and Philips Arena when we met. Michael worked in the Graphic Design department and I was in HR.

When did you guys get married?

September 19, 2015

What is the best piece of advice would you give to a newlywed couple?

Communication, communication, communication. Everything can be overcome with effective communication. Before you learn to love, you should have established a relationship/friendship first. Rely on that friendship, it is your foundation. Always be a true friend. If you believe in God, make him the center of your relationship. If everything you do is through him, he will cover and guide your marriage. Read The 5 Love Languages, identify yours and live by it.

What traits do you think are necessary to sustain a lively and successful marriage?

Number one is marriage counseling. Even if you think you know it all, do not skip marriage counseling initially and it doesn’t hurt to revisit counseling or partake in a marriage retreat over the years. Life will introduce different stages (children, job transitions, loss, etc.) and it may be helpful to seek third party input on preparation or how to deal with challenges that may be faced during these times. Be mature and manage your emotions. Sometimes we require a lot from our spouses when we should remember that we are in a partnership. It should not always be about what one person wants, daily you should ask your spouse “what can I do to make your day better?”.

How do you define “Black Love?”

Black Love is effective communication, an eternal flame, a partnership and a three strand cord. For our son, we hope to be the real life example of what Love looks like in our culture so he doesn’t have to resort to a Cosby Show, Family Matters or Fresh Prince of Belair to see not only Black Love but a positive image of a black family. #WheresTheBlackFamilyEmoji